But science has shown that only kids with above mean intelligence benefit from it.
I live in a country the size of a handkerchief which has 3 official languages. In my life, I have met a lot of people from households speaking 2 languages. You can often tell which language is their âmother tongueâ (one parent being less at home than the other can make a difference). They are fluent, but not perfect. Some do get perfect, and others never get the hang of the 2nd language. Friends of my brother have 3 kids. They were all born in the Dutch speaking part. The youngest was still very little when they moved to the French speaking part. They speak Dutch at home, French at school, sports, ⌠The youngest doesnât speak Dutch anymore, even though itâs the first language he came into contact with and itâs the language used at home.
Of course, itâs true that the younger you are, the easier it generally is to learn something. But itâs far from being a guarantee.
Some interesting perspectives demonstrated here regarding Guitar abilities, âtalentâ and hard work. Would peoples viewpoints change at all if we were to replace the word talent with aptitude? I as because I thought talent was equivalent to skill, I.e. Eddie is a talented guitarist when what I really meant was he is skilled.
After checking the online Websters dictionary, I see talent is defined as aptitude. So you are born with talent or the aptitude for something, but work is required to get good/great. If you start with talent it makes it easier to be good/great.
Iâve read several memoirs by famous musicians, and they all did the same thing- collaborated with other people before they were good at anything. Marilyn Manson was having himself photographed with other people as if they were a band, considered themsleves a band, before they had written a single song or even had a band name. Nikki Sixx claims he joined a band and the bandmates told him to go buy a guitar. So he went and got a bass because he didnât realize they were different.
What I get out of these kinds of stories, along with the fact that these people were so extremely driven to become famous musicians that they started before they could even play very well (or at all), is that they were in proximity to people who could play well and who were willing to give them a chance even though it would take a lot of time for the person to get good enough to be useful.
I have three or four other guitar playing people in my life. They were unwilling to help me. I ask questions, talk about my frustrations, they sort of refused to participate. I took it as they just didnât want to teach me guitar. Especially not for free. I was really kind of surprised. But at the same time, I wouldnât be willing to teach my husbandâs 13 year old 2nd cousin how to play piano. Iâm not happy with my own piano playing, let alone teach someone else. No, she can go take lessons and learn the right way.
I think its very interesting how some people can be taken under the wings of other people who are good musicians (who are also kind, patient, willing and good teachers), and get taught everything organically and then become great musicians, and get wildly famous. I have no proximity to that where I live. If a person lives in LA, Seattle, NY, Nashville, etc, probably yes.
Basically I learned most famous people got famous through luck, and proximity.
Youâve hit the nail on the head! The older Iâve got the more I realise how true this is for most endeavours in life.
Ed Sheeran deserves all his success but I know lots of singer/song-writers who are just as good, if not better than he is and worked just as hard (rehearsal, gigging, marketing themselves) to succeed â but ended up going back to the day job. Luck (being in the right place at the right time) and meeting the right people plays a huge role.
In the field of business, lots of companies tried bringing out tablet-like devices but their timing was wrong (too soon) or the market wasnât quite ready. It wasnât until Apple brought out the iPad that such a device was viable. Working hard, having good ideas and the right connections are necessary to succeed but you also need external conditions (that you have no control over) to be in your favour.
Also, for anyone reading the accounts of successful people, be aware of survivorship bias. For every successful person, there are countless people who did the same but just werenât as lucky.
Both these statements are far from the truth.
Most Musicians, Sports Stars, Famous or Successful people become famous because they never give up and keep trying until they succeed.
You make your own luck by never giving up, Proximity to people that can make you successful is done by not taking no for an answer and keep trying.
And the biggest thing is no matter how talented you think you are the paying public also has to like what your selling and in the entertainment business youâre selling yourself.
This is why there are so many Fake Famous People. They found a way to sell what people want.
Look at how many Rich kids OD on drugs or fall from family graces. They have luck (they were born rich) they have proximity to other Rich and Successful people and never amount to anything. Yet kids who grow up with next to nothing became house hold names.
Iâd never dismiss luck. Youâve still got to do the work but maybe through one train being late you miss a once in a lifetime meeting with a producer who was on your wavelength. After that youâve got to take an office job to keep a roof over your head and the opportunity doesnât come around again.
Luck has played a part in my life. The job that Iâve been doing for the past 20 years wasnât the result of 1000 application forms and knocking at many doors, it was a chance conversation with a colleague who was offered it but thought it was more my thing - and he was right! To my point I did the work to get to the point of being capable of doing the job, passing exams etc and did the work since to keep the job, but if Iâd been off sick that day, or on holiday, someone else might have got that opportunity
Or youâre sitting right next to the same guy and donât know who he is because you havenât been out trying to sell yourself to the people in the know.
Luck goes both ways. Some time it goes against you.
You either accidentally or strategically missed the part where I said âalong with being so extremely drivenâ.
Of course luck doesnât work for everyone, or anyone all the time. Of course being driven doesnât work for eveyone, or anyone all the time. That goes without saying. I think we all understand itâs a little of both for some people, wholly just one or the other for other people, or neither for people like me who are too scared to play for anyone but the cat.
And also that I gave examples of luck going both ways and got a reply implying that I didnât. It makes me wonder why I bother when people argue with points I didnât make
