Yeah, I can’t imagine that my family will say “we need to notify the Justin Guitar community!”
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That is true, Mark,
And in this case specifically it was Mari who asked that I be informed. And I made the choice to share to the Community. I might also have just passed the message on to a few others whom I was aware were aware of her illness.
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For whatever it is worth, I think that the way this was handled was good. I may not have known Mari, being a more recent member here, but I enjoyed reading about her, and going though her learning log.
There are several people here that I read and recognize, but have not had a chance to interact with yet. Should their time come (hey, it comes to all of us eventually, right?), I’d appreciate knowing about it, if another member or a moderator is notified and decides to share.
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A sad loss, Mari was always ready with supportive comments.
Neil
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My 2 cents given I have been here over a decade.
We do not need a process or procedure in place to deal with a members passing, each one should be treated individually.
In all my time here we have only officially learnt of the passing of Hilts and Mari (both long time and valued members RIP). The circumstances of their loss was extremely different. Hilts went AWOL but that is common here as people come and go. When we moved from the old house (Forum) to the new city (Community) a lot of folk never crossed the bridge and we lost a lot of good, experienced and knowledgeable people.
But Hilt’s absence was out of character and our good Mr Coles @Richard_close2u did some detective work and eventually discovered he had passed.
Mari’s circumstances were different. Given the gravity of her diagnosis, she reached out to some close and personal friends here, that she had known or collabed with for years. Her partner was also familiar with some of those folk, given she had performed on recordings or our Open Mics with Mari, so was not a stranger to many of us.
Quite a few sidebar DMs and personal emails were exchanged after she shared the news, so it was not surprising she had asked Krista to reach out to @DavidP when the time necessitated.
What we did as a community for Hilts was fitting and the same goes for the way Mari’s passing was handled. They were both individuals and their passing was unique in respect of their “community” circumstances.
So for me no procedure, checklist or rules on this one (yes @brianlarsen you did read that right my dear pal 
) take each loss and treat as individually as the member was in their place here.
Their posts will remain for as long as @JustinGuitar keeps this place running and they will remain in the hearts and minds of those that knew them and knew them well.
FWIW the banner under the mosaic worked well this time but personally a picture was not required to remind me of a beautiful friend I had the honour to know and work with.
My 0.02 Euros.
RIP Mari and Hilts
PS - When I pop my clogs mechanisms are already in place for folks here to know.
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And we’ll play the blues for you #BBP
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You can play the friggin album if the posse gets the release sorted 
Or a collaboration on this one might be good ?
I’ll be downstairs anyway keeping and eye on you and seeing who really did sell soul to my new boss
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Well put Toby. I already let Richard and Lieven know my opinion on this in a PM and I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels this way.
There is a time for grieving and a time to move on. With the Banner and picture there is no moving on.
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How about removing the banner and putting Mari’s thumbnail into the mosaic with a thin black border round it.
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Just put Mari in the mosaic no marker needed. And get rid of the folk who turned up for a photo op and were never active here in the first place. Too many strangers on that board in my opinion, just like the Drive By AVOYP posters with their pro click here YT channels. Mosaic should be active members not grifters. But hey one for another thread!
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Late to the party here. My 2c.
I think the way Mari’s passing was dealt with was relevant and respectful. Temporary pinning & a thread. People paying respects. She was a prominent long time community member.
I don’t think there needs to be a policy. Let the mods make their own minds up with what to do.
I do not think there should be a permanent banner, or a forum graveyard, or adding RIP to posts or changing avatars. It will take away from the feel of the place. Just leave the thread in place in a subsection for people to find if they want. This is a guitar community, and while we want to respect those members that passed, I don’t think we should be building memorials into every page.
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I agree with Toby and JK, we are all adults here in the discussion, I am sure Mari wouldn’t want this to be going on, and the Mosaic should be changing automatically over the months with active members surely there is the tech for that to happen just my thoughts. cheers HEC
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