I will explain why I mute topics since it is not much appreciated
Its related to my health condition after the head trauma I had years ago when I had an accident at my workplace
( I was working in a warehouse at the time , I wasnt a cartoonist )
I suffer from all the different types of migraine existing , and I discovered some that I didnt even know existed
2 are violent and the pain extreme ( thats why I ve been declared handicaped )
For both I must avoid being stressed , angry , tired , hungry , etc etc
my life must be monitorised all the time , thats why I live like a hermit
I dont think that cluster headaches can be triggered by the forum by I do know that thunderclap headache does and I sincerely do not wish anybody to experience it
to describe it its like being suddenly and violently punched in the head , like an uppercut
I become dizzy , everythings turns and I almost faint , I can t stand on my legs , im shaking …
really horrible
So to avoid triggering thunderclap headaches , I just mute the topics that I know will anger or stress me even a little bit .
It triggers extremely quickly , I do not control anything !
But its not because my ( stupid ) body wont let me debate that I cant say what I have to say at least once otherwise I can never speak and it would be like being a living ghost
( and thats why I ve been declared inapt for work cause Im the perfect victim … I cant defend myself in front of others if Im bullied )
Its not my fault … I dont do it on purpose to anger people !
My apologies if it does bother you
Mac
( Well I still work a bit for magazines , but not much nowadays )
Thanks for sharing, Deborah, appreciate your candour and wish you well taking care of yourself. Health, family, real-life come first and I like to think as a Community we are compassionate, understanding, and supportive.
Nope its for life , theres nothing to do …
just trying to avoid triggering the worst migraines but it also means having no life
Im glad that I can at least play electric guitar
I was a little worried that it would trigger something ( well sometimes basic migraines but Im used to it )
announcing it means : I wont receive any notifications so dont bother answering me ! I wont know it
! I only warn if I post in the topic .
Ignoring notifications on purpose is way worse in my view and rude and not letting people know why I dont answer is also not polite
thanks a lot Silvia
Yesterday I received a mail from fanny when she closed a topic
I dont know why since I muted the topic … but I was able to read the comments ( which is what I didnt want to do but curiosity had the better of me ) and I knew that I had to explain
Thunderclap migraines ( and cluster ) are extremely rare and people do not understand the behaviour that goes with it without an explanation
Hi Deborah. Announcing your personal struggles like this is courageous and - as you have seen already - something that the community warmly embraces and responds to in a supportive and friendly manner.
I cannot imagine the difficulties you face so will not say much other than you have my sympathies and a new found perspective with which to read some of your posts.
Richard
to avoid stress I dont own a tv , dont own a phone , dont own a car
, just own a tablet for the applications and the Mac for working and playing guitar
( and stress sips from the computer )
I own a radio and listen to a lot of music
This I don’t understand. I get notifications for pretty much every post on the forum but the posters will not see that. So I will open a post to clear it down if I am not interested or have nothing to say and nobody knows I’ve even been there. If you ignore a tag, I grant you that is different but no one can see who has received a notification. So I cannot see how that would be rude. Just MHO and YMMV.
I get this entirely. I’m working with a coach regarding my stress and anxiety. My physical symptoms aren’t as severe as those you describe but are still unpleasant. It’s rare that I mute topics but there have definitely been some where I’ve chosen to step away from. Unless I’ve accidentally said something that has caused offence that I will apologise for, I do step away from conversations when I realise they’re heading off the rails because my guitar exists to give me joy not stress
First of all I would like to say that I can hardly imagine what you’re going through. It sounds very challenging to carefully avoid triggers. I think it’s absolutely necessary that you need to protect yourself. Absolutely, your well-being comes first.
I also admire that you share your situation openly. I truly hope that you continue to find some peace in learning and playing guitar, in the world of music in general, and also in continuing to connect with us here in the forum.
Hi Deborah, sorry to read about your condition. It’s understandable that you may have to step away from some discussions to avoid triggering episodes. I doubt that anyone in the community would consider it rude if you didn’t respond to a particular comment as we understand that people may not respond to every single comment. The muting of the topics doesn’t really bother me. It was more the muting of one specific topic where your only post in that topic was to declare this topic is muted. In such instances, it would be better to not post declaring the topic is muted as it can come across rather rude and would be better off just ignoring such topics without saying anything. In saying that I wish you good health and take care of yourself.
I remember in the mail I received that someone answered to me : " come on and come explain to me bla bla bla " ( even though i signalled that the topic was muted … ) so signaling it was not enough in that case since that person was expecting an answer from me to start a debate …
I usually post a comment first when I signal a muted topic … but I may have slipped once with that foggy brain of mine
