Hold on, never mind all the to-ing and fro-ing over the Bm barre chord and let’s just appreciate this for a moment …
BRAVO.
How completely fab.
What a great step you’ve taken, and I hope it is the start of a great period of musical fun.
Okay.
First, you can just learn to play the barre chords and do the business… That may take you ahead of your current place, in which case, I would say that playing in the context of songs, to help you in joining in with a ‘band setting’ is about the best reason there is to skip around a little and not stick rigidly to the one step at a time approach.
Second, are you sure that you absolutely must play barre chords? Do you know how to figure the chords in that same key played using different shapes and a capo? If not then you can learn it here: Using a capo to stay in the same key
If the songs you are playing have chords that are only in one key (diatonic progressions, no out-of-key chords) then you should be able to find a capo position at which you can match the actual chords with chord shapes that need no barres. That would happen when you came to a place where the tonic chord of the songs key could be played using a C-shape chord.
Examples:
B minor can be either:
- the ii chord in the key of A, in which case a capo at fret 9 would allow you to play A major chord using a C-shape
- the iii chord in the key of G, in which case a capo at fret 7 would allow you to play G major chord using a C-shape
- the vi chord in the key of D, in which case a capo at fret 2 would allow you to play D major chord using a C-shape
If this all sounds new and a little beyond your knowledge level, please read the topic I linked. It does not get too deep into theory and it is more of a practical hands-on guide.
I hope that helps.
Richard 